The acceptability of emotions:

Only allowing yourself to have emotions when you have a conversation/friend. It's like you weren't allowed to have emotions in private. As though emotions were a special treat you weren't deserving of.

🤔 However,you are very accommodating of others emotions no matter how encroaching and disrespectful it is.

This pattern is quite baffling.

Second,when the person purported to be an expert in emotions himself puts obstacles in your healing by shutting down your emotions,feelings. Dismissing real problems and name calling plus misogyny. Giving bad advice. When I have given feedback that something isn't working,the inability to accept and draft a different strategy...but instead makes me do both persons job. Ah...isn't this familiar? Yup.

So the expert himself has issues with frustration tolerance,boundaries,keeping himself updated with the latest and giving me a framework. He goes to name calling which is an attack on my identity.

The inability of the expert to apologise for his angry outburst is a blatant lack of accountability and repair.

Thirdly, let's address the energy issue. There is energy to carry out my tasks in a day or conversation with an empathetic person or take part in community. The poor time boundaries makes me question the authenticity of his degrees.

Fourthly,it's expected that a coach must understand the struggles mentioned and draft a plan and present it. That wasn't done.

Fiflthy, lack of knowledge on the subjects I needed help with suggests that competence is lacking. Furthermore,gaslights and dismisses my experiences.

Sixthly, is upset that I've progressed and healed. Has shamed every good thing I've done.

Patterns are quite fascinating.

m.o of men vs. women

 Men often mistake women’s criticism for control and domination.

When she points something out, it lands as an attack. 

He feels judged, disrespected, or even emasculated. But what he doesn’t realize is that her words come from care. She’s trying to make things better, to feel safer, to connect more deeply.

Men grew up in a world of competition, where worth was proven through performance. So when a woman gives feedback, it unconsciously triggers that old belief: “I’m not enough.”

It’s not her words that hurt him, it’s the story he learned long ago that love must be earned through doing. And not doing it right, subconsciously means he isn’t valued or loved.

And women make their own misunderstanding too.

They often mistake a man’s stillness for disconnection, indifference, or lack of care.

When he goes quiet, she assumes he’s shutting down or avoiding her. But for many men, stillness is regulation. It’s his way of holding the space without adding fire to the storm.

Women grew up connecting through emotion, through sharing, empathizing, and expressing.

Their worth was affirmed through being compassionate and open. So when a man doesn’t meet her in that same emotional current, it feels like rejection, or even abandonment. 

Both acts, in essence, are love. Just in completely different ways.

She shows love by reaching in. He shows love by standing still.

She wants to feel him with her in emotion. He wants to protect her by not getting swept into it.

When both start to understand this, that her care isn’t control and his calm isn’t absence, something shifts.

Criticism softens into communication.

Silence turns into safety.

And suddenly, two people who thought they were fighting are actually loving each other, just in different languages.

History of clothing production

 https://bellatory.com/fashion-industry/Ready-to-Wear-A-Short-History-of-the-Garment-Industry

Child slavery never ended though.

Psychology for betterment

https://parenting.firstcry.com/articles/dysfunctional-family-characteristics-and-tips-to-overcome-its-effects/

Interesting areas of observation

Of late, what piques my interest is,whetger Americans are sick from diseases caught from tyeur pet dogs.
Found this https://www.cdc.gov/healthypets/pets/dogs.html.

People dont mind sudden death. Is that due to the spirit of suicide? Hmmm...

Another interesting topic is whether people fall sick from infected shopping carts,from people placing their dogs in it.

Here in india, as far as i know, people dont do it. But the population is tending towards this dysfunctional behaviour.

I used to think keeping pets indoors is cute. I dont think family members dying and getting diseases is cute.
But some people think it is.

There are certain sections of people who should not keep pets due to health risks. But there is ignorance and people are afraid of offending others.

Anyway, this was common sense in the 80s. When i was a kid,i didnt understand that's why pets are kept outside.

Guess people pay for their nistakes in awful ways.

Causes of sickness,hairball,fat

1. Sins
2. Trauma
3. Witchcraft

The weapons of our warfare are not carnal,but mighty to the pulling down of strongholds.

And patience.

Review of jovees argan kernel oil hair repair shampoo and conditioner

It smells awful.
Doesn't foam much.
Lol I'm disappointed.

I've read reviews before buying it. Needless to say, online reviewers are lying just like everybody else.