Only allowing yourself to have emotions when you have a conversation/friend. It's like you weren't allowed to have emotions in private. As though emotions were a special treat you weren't deserving of.
🤔 However,you are very accommodating of others emotions no matter how encroaching and disrespectful it is.
This pattern is quite baffling.
Second,when the person purported to be an expert in emotions himself puts obstacles in your healing by shutting down your emotions,feelings. Dismissing real problems and name calling plus misogyny. Giving bad advice. When I have given feedback that something isn't working,the inability to accept and draft a different strategy...but instead makes me do both persons job. Ah...isn't this familiar? Yup.
So the expert himself has issues with frustration tolerance,boundaries,keeping himself updated with the latest and giving me a framework. He goes to name calling which is an attack on my identity.
The inability of the expert to apologise for his angry outburst is a blatant lack of accountability and repair.
Thirdly, let's address the energy issue. There is energy to carry out my tasks in a day or conversation with an empathetic person or take part in community. The poor time boundaries makes me question the authenticity of his degrees.
Fourthly,it's expected that a coach must understand the struggles mentioned and draft a plan and present it. That wasn't done.
Fiflthy, lack of knowledge on the subjects I needed help with suggests that competence is lacking. Furthermore,gaslights and dismisses my experiences.
Sixthly, is upset that I've progressed and healed. Has shamed every good thing I've done.
Patterns are quite fascinating.
